I expected my husband’s support when my mom passed away, but he chose a Hawaii vacation over my grief! Shocked and devastated, I faced the funeral alone. But when he returned, he was greeted by a scene he never saw coming as I taught him a lesson he’d never forget. I was at work when my phone lit up with the doctor’s number and somehow, I just knew. My stomach dropped before I even picked up.
Mom was gone. Just like that. One minute she was fighting a minor lung infection, and the next… Nothing made sense anymore. I don’t remember driving home. One minute I was in my cubicle, and the next I was fumbling with my house keys, vision blurry with tears. John’s car was in the driveway.
He must’ve had another “work from home” day, which usually meant watching ESPN on mute while pretending to answer emails. I tried to speak, but the words got stuck somewhere between my heart and my throat. Instead, I just shook my head and held out my arms like a child. He set down his mug with a sigh and gave me an awkward pat on the back, like he was comforting a stranger’s kid.
“My mom,” I finally managed. “She’s… she died, John. Mom died.” His arms tightened for a fraction of a second. “Oh. Wow. That’s… I’m sorry, honey. “He pulled back. “Want me to order takeout tonight? Maybe from that Thai place you like?” I nodded numbly, not really hearing him. Mom was gone. The woman who’d taught me to ride a bike, who’d worked two jobs to put me through college after Dad left, who still called me every Sunday just to chat… gone.
The next morning, reality started setting in. There was so much to do! I had to plan the funeral, notify family and friends, and sort through a lifetime of belongings. I was making lists at the kitchen table when I remembered our upcoming vacation. “Cancel?” John lowered his newspaper, frowning. “Edith, those tickets were non-refundable. We’d lose thousands. Plus, I already scheduled my tee times at the resort.”
I stared at him, sure I’d misheard. “John, my mother just died.” He folded the paper with precise movements, like he was trying to contain his irritation. Look, I know you’re upset, but funerals are for family. I’m just your husband — no one will miss me there. Your cousins barely know me anyway.” The words hit me like a physical blow. “Just my husband?” “You know what I mean.” He wouldn’t meet my eyes, suddenly very interested in straightening his tie. “Besides, someone should use the tickets. You can handle things here, and you know I’m no good at all this… emotional stuff.”
How had I never noticed the way his eyes glazed over whenever I talked about my feelings? The way he treated emotions like inconvenient interruptions in his carefully scheduled life? John would occasionally pat my shoulder awkwardly when he found me crying, offering helpful suggestions like, “Maybe you should take a sleeping pill” or “Have you tried watching a comedy?” The day before the funeral, he left for Hawaii with a quick peck on my cheek and a “
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